Adaptation of the child in kindergarten

 

 

 

Kindergarten is a new period in a child's life. For the baby it is, first of all, the first experience of collective communication. Not all children accept a new environment, strangers at once and without problems. Most of them react to kindergarten crying. Some easily enter the group, but cry evenings at home, others agree to go to kindergarten in the morning, and before entering the group begin to be capricious and cry. The older the child, the faster he is able to adapt.

 

There are certain reasons that cause tears in a child:

 

* Anxiety associated with a change of environment (a child under 3 years still needs increased attention. In this case, from the usual, calm home atmosphere, where mother is near and at any moment can come to the rescue, he moves in a strange space, meets let and friendly, but strangers) and mode (child is difficult to accept the norms and rules of group life, in which he got). In kindergarten, they teach a certain discipline, but at home it was not so important. In addition, the personal regime of the child's day is violated, it can provoke tantrums and reluctance to go to the DOE.

 

* Psychological unpreparedness of the child for kindergarten. This problem is the most difficult and can be associated with individual characteristics of development. Most often this happens when the child lacks emotional communication with his mother.

 

* Lack of self-service skills. This greatly complicates the child's stay in kindergarten.

 

· The abundance of impressions. In the DOE kid is experiencing a lot of new positive and negative experiences, it can be overworked and, consequently, to nervous, to cry, to sulk.

 

 

 

Ways to reduce the stress of a child.

 

 

 

 - Simple actions can reduce anxiety and positively affect the adaptation of the child to new living conditions. So, it is recommended to accustom the child to kindergarten gradually. Parents should prepare themselves and the baby in advance for the first day of visiting a preschool institution. It is necessary to create in advance at home for the child the mode of the day (sleep, games and meals), corresponding to the mode of DOE.

 

 - In the first days should not leave your baby in kindergarten more than two hours. Stay time should be increased gradually. After 1 - 2 weeks (this period is individual for each child), taking into account the desire of the baby, you can leave it for the whole day in the DOE.

 

 - Every time after coming from kindergarten, you need to ask the child about how the day went, what impressions he received. It is necessary to focus the child's attention on the positive aspects, as parents with such short remarks are able to form a positive attitude to the preschool institution.

 

 - If the baby cries, you should take him in your arms, calm him-probably he lacks the touch of his mother, which recently was much more.

 

 - It is desirable to put the child to bed at home early, stay with him longer before going to bed, talk about the garden.

 

 - At the weekend it is necessary to adhere to the regime of the day adopted in the DOE, repeat all activities that the baby has already learned.

 

 - It is advisable to give the child a couple of days of rest, if he categorically refuses to go to kindergarten. All this time it is necessary to talk about the garden, about how much interesting awaits him there. Let these conversations be emotionally colored, they will help to calm the baby.

 

 

 

Typical mistakes of parents

 

Parents, giving the child to preschool, often face difficulties. Let's consider typical errors and ways to prevent them.

 

First of all, it is the unwillingness of parents to the negative reaction of the child to preschool. Parents are frightened by the tearfulness of the child, confused, because at home he willingly agreed to go to kindergarten. We must remember that for the baby – this is the first experience, he could not imagine in advance the full picture that tearfulness-the normal state of a preschooler in the period of adaptation to kindergarten. With the patient attitude of adults, it can pass by itself.

 

A common mistake of parents is to blame and punish the child for tears. This is not the way out. From senior are required only patience and aid. All the baby needs is to adapt to new conditions. Kindergarten teachers should be ready to help parents in this difficult period for the family.

 

 At first, when the child is just starting to go to kindergarten, you should not also plan important things, it is better to postpone going to work. Parents should know that the child can get used to kindergarten 2-3 months.

 

 Another mistake parents-stay in a state of concern, anxiety. They care about public opinion, feel inner discomfort, worry that they are not good enough in the role of "mom" and "dad". First of all, they need to calm down, children instantly feel when parents are worried, this condition is transmitted to them. It is very important for parents to understand that the child is adapting to new living conditions. It is necessary to avoid talking about the tears of the baby with other family members in his presence. It seems that the son or daughter is still very young and does not understand adult conversations. But children on a subtle spiritual level feel the concern of the mother, and this further increases the child's anxiety.

 

Reduced attention to the child is also a typical mistake of parents. Satisfied with the work of DOE, some mothers sigh with relief and do not pay as much attention as before to the baby. It is recommended, on the contrary, to spend as much time as possible with the child during this period of his life. This mom shows that there is nothing to be afraid of, because she is still around.

 

When the baby begins to talk cheerfully about the garden, read poems, retell the events that happened during the day , it is a sure sign that he has settled in.

 

It is difficult to say how long the adaptation period will last, because all children go through it differently. But getting used to preschool is also a test for parents, an indicator of how ready they are to support the child, to help him overcome difficulties.

 

Recommendations to parents on preparing a child for kindergarten.

 

 Every day, leave time to talk with your child about what a kindergarten is, why it is needed and why mom wants to take him there (it's interesting, there are other children walking and playing, mom needs to do family things).

 

 Pre-plan walks on the territory of the kindergarten. Pay attention to the beauty of the kindergarten. Focus the child's attention on the fact that soon he will be able to walk and play here with all the children and the teacher.

 

 Proudly tell your friends in the presence of the baby that he has grown up and is preparing to go to kindergarten.

 

 Even before the first visit, tell your child about the mode of the day in kindergarten, what children do there and who are the educators. This will help the baby to more easily accept the novelty in his life.

 

 Tell him that in kindergarten he will be able to make new friends. Teach him exemplary phrases, words, what he will be able to address his new friends. Read poems or children's stories about the kindergarten, show pictures.

 

 Be sure to talk to him about the role of the educator. Many children mistakenly believe that their mother left them and gave someone else's aunt. Teach your child how to address the caregiver, how to properly declare their needs.

 

 Play with your child at home in the game "kindergarten". Create a couple of typical situations that can occur in a children's group. Prompt some options for the kid which will help it to react to them. This will lay the foundations for communication and entry of the baby into a new team - first children, then school, and then an adult.

 

 Maintain relationships with the caregiver and other parents. Ask who your baby is friends with, welcome and encourage friendship. Participate in the life of the baby, enjoy his success and creativity. This is a good Foundation for a strong child-parent relationship.

 

 Conflict situations, misunderstandings with educators solve without aggression and not in the presence of the child. Do not criticize the kindergarten, do not resent the shortcomings of the preschool with the child.

 

 Remember, that with the beginning of visits kindergarten child on time forfeits physical contact with mother. It is important for young children that they continue to be picked up, hugged, put to bed. Therefore, try to pay more attention to the child at home.

 

 

 

How to communicate with kids.

 

      Communication of younger preschoolers is completely different from their communication with adults. They talk differently, look at each other, behave differently.

 

      The first thing that catches the eye is the extremely bright emotional saturation of children's communication. They literally can not talk calmly-screaming, screaming, laughing, rushing, scaring each other and at the same time choking with delight. Increased emotionality and looseness significantly distinguishes the contacts of children from their interaction with adults. In the communication of peers, there are about 10 times more vivid expressive and mimic manifestations, expressing a variety of emotional States: from furious indignation to violent joy, from tenderness and sympathy to a fight.